What are emotions? These are commonly known as your feelings as a result of something that happened. These experiences include joy, hate, love etc. At this stage what you are feeling is the downside result of love, you are currently having a heart break. You tend to cry, get depressed, and literally feel that someone is tearing your heart. Normally as a kid, when we are hurt we wanted to scream, to hit something or do some crazy stuffs but as mature individuals, we should be able to control our emotions and not let the emotions control us. If it does, something bad might happen and this can worsen the relationship that you are trying to rebuild.
Let us be a little scientific with this, what are the effects of negative emotions to our body? Some may result to increased risk of heart disease, sleep disturbances, damaged immunity or worse it can lead to death. I can’t see any positive results most specially getting your ex back. So would you want your (a) emotions to control you or (b) you control your emotions before it is too late? I guess your answer will be ‘b’.
You don’t have to consult a doctor unless you are on the extremes, if you know what I mean. What you have to do is follow some practical steps and I’m sure you will be able to take control of your emotions and your life as well. You have to identify what emotional state you are in so you would be able to act accordingly. Possibly, what you are in right now is sadness, disgust or fear. These are hurtful emotions but absolutely not hopeless. You have all the reasons to feel as such but you should ask yourself a question that may change your perspective about the situation. What is another perspective of your situation? I am sure that there is a positive and balanced perspective of what you are in. You may see it as an opportunity to grow and be independent. The possibilities are endless you just have to figure out what it is. Go on a vacation, go shopping with your friends, do things that will divert your attention into something productive. That will surely lessen the pain and will help you be more independent and confident.
Now that you have a positive outlook of your break up, you should be able to handle your first encounter with him. I am not saying that you should confront him or approach him, that will just make him feel that you are still into him. You do not want him to feel that you are after him all along and you are readily available when he says so. Be as casual as possible, smile but do not over do it. For example both of you are in a party, think that you are not there because you want to see him but instead you want to enjoy with your friends. Since you came as a ‘new’ you, he will be curious and who knows he might be the one to approach you. If he does, act as if you are ok. You may think this is hard but just imagine yourself in a big stage and you are portraying a role of an independent and strong woman who can live on her own. Do not expect tremendous result, he is also trying to catch up with the new you. Then again, tell me, who does not want to date a girl who have the guts and the ‘roar’ we are all looking for?
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You’re right. There should be some kind of “performance” here especially if one really wants to get an ex boyfriend back fast. It’s ironic that one has to act like she doesn’t care about the guy anymore to get him to re-think his decision to break up. But this is really a good tactic. I know some friends who managed to get back their ex by doing this.
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